Have you ever wondered why we don’t give advice at the CFBC? Well, the Dilbert cartoon that CFBC member Brent Ogle recently sent me explains better than I can - plus it made me laugh!
One of the hardest things for me to learn was that advice is a big NO in the CFBC. That may seem like an easy habit to break, but for me it was not. After all, I’m human and I love to help! Think about how we are all trained to give others advice. Yep, I had years of conditioning to undo.
What I’ve learned over the years is that I would much rather help and contribute through my shared experiences (the good and the bad – I’ve made mistakes!) rather than thinking I have all the answers. Plus, receiving shared experiences from peers feels wonderful. I come away knowing that they understand and have been in my shoes too. Shared experiences express empathy rather than an ‘I’m smarter than you’ attitude.
To be honest, when I think about it, I can’t ever remember anyone taking the advice I so righteously dished out before I learned about shared experiences. I definitely agree with Dilbert and have learned to keep my ego in check.
Thank you to the CFBC for the lesson learned that keeps on giving.
CFBC Executive Director